When we cherish something, we love it, appreciate it and nurture it
Cherish, a song sung by Kool & The Gang in 1984, is an all-time favorite. Besides the beautiful voice, it’s the words that resonate with me. “Treasure the love we have. We should cherish the life we live”. This refrain for me is the essence of life. When we cherish something, we love it, appreciate it, and nurture it. We seem to know a lot, but still need constant reminders.
What reminded me of this song was when my dad was admitted to the hospital last week in emergency. Thanks to the doctors for their quick action and best treatment. But having been a patient and hospitalized myself for many months, I know for a fact that in addition to good medical facilities, we need the love and care of our loved ones. Bless all who were there with him. With all the loving care and prayers, he is now on the road to recovery.
It made me think how lucky we are to have people who love us, care about our well-being, and keep us in their prayers. We should cherish that. In this part of the world, family ties are strong and this allows us to continue especially in difficult times. It’s like an oxygen cylinder ready with us, we can draw in fresh oxygen as the levels drop.
Time is the most precious gift we can give someone, we have heard it so many times. But we live in a world where materialistic objects are so important in our lives and we succumb to the pressures that society imposes on us. We rely so much on the possessions in our home, be it paintings, exhibits, crystal and marble, rather than the people who walk through them. Our family and friends are the real treasures to which we should devote our time.
It’s natural to get too involved in our day-to-day lives, but right now reflect and ask yourself why are you living? My answer is very clear. I live for the moments and memories that I am able to create with my family and friends. We must cherish every minute with our loved ones. Spend as much time with those who mean the most to you and hold on to them. We may think we’ve grown up and don’t need anyone, but I don’t think that’s true. My family and friends are my anchor. They are the thread that holds me together.
Let’s think about the happiest moments of our lives. Most of them would be time spent with our family and friends. The best way to strengthen love and relationships is to spend as much time as possible with the precious people in your life. The best thing about these special memories is that they never fade; no matter how much time passes or if those precious people are gone, you can always close your eyes and go straight back to those beautiful moments. These memories have the ability to instantly transport us to another world whenever we need a little nudge. Our instant dose of dopamine, so shouldn’t we keep making more of those beautiful memories and cherish the ones we have.
It amazes me that people with poor memory (where are my keys, specs, cell phone, etc.) have an instant recall button of the beautiful times they spent in childhood with family and friends . They can remember incidents in great detail. We cling to our memories (that too without realizing it or making the slightest effort). That’s the reason gift shops do such a good business, because people buy things to keep beautiful memories woven around that piece.
Life is a roller coaster ride and we all go through difficult times in our lives, but these are always made easier by having loving friends and family around us during difficult times. Having been patient, I know how good and reassuring it is to know that someone you love is standing by your side, lending their strength and helping you fight your battles.
I have given many interviews and in each there is a mention of the coffee meeting with my father at 11 a.m. every day during my illness of 2 and a half years. A mug so special that besides caffeine I have everything I needed to recover. This cup of coffee will always be so special to me, that was almost 2 decades ago, but just thinking about it still makes me smile today.
So let us cherish our life, our health, our family and our friends. These are things that money cannot buy and they are in fact our true wealth.
Shilpa Bhasin Mehra is a legal consultant based in Dubai